Escaping from the Jaws of Life.......a transformational journey.....
This is a book of hope, survival, and resolve that transformed my life of expectancy and control, to one of waiting, watching, and appreciating. Through my transition of becoming who I am today, I had an opportunity to learn new methods, being guided by my instincts and my insights, and sharing that with those who have also lost their loved one(s). I also knew that this would be a better example for my own children.
Gone are the days of spending out your life waiting to die. Gone are the days of wearing black. Gone are the days of becoming a grief-consumed person of no identity.
I appreciate the fact that I was born in a culture where women can truly become who they are as independent survivors on their own terms. The fear of death in our culture and society creates a fear-mentality, sometimes stopping us from moving forward. We don't really know what is going to happen to us when we do die. Most women who outlive their husbands only have the older examples of being widow. Hopefully, this story will help many change that belief and find joy to move forward.
We reach across our beds to hold that person no longer in our lives, only to find cold sheets, emptiness and loneliness. Many women look for a replacement that will provide them with safety, company, security, and more often than not, financial stability. Some lucky women in my generation are better educated, have careers, earn a pension, and have financial stability. I love that. That security I have is one of the many things I used to help me move from grief to happiness. I am grateful for that.
At this generation...we have an additional advantage to reach knowledge on the computers and internet. Those vast sources provide a rich content of videos, self-help, and written word that can influence us with out process. The widows of yesteryear did not. I learned along the way that the profound source of information from spirituality and "new-age" thinking helped me immensely.
All is well, if you just accept how it happens and take a moment to understand that you can't control your destiny. Know that the path being shown to you is of benefit to all of those you have contact with. All it takes is faith and belief in yourself.
Most of all, accept it as it is. Find the joy and fun of being, and don't look back!